It is easy to get lost in all the vast sea of opinions in regard to how to best communicate with your horse. We all want the same result, a horse that is respectful, responsive and a joy to be around. Partnership training, regardless of the method or style is reliant upon the fact that horses instinctively seek leadership. It is absolutely essential that you are aware of this instinct, and the nature of the horse you are interacting with. Your success and more importantly your safety rely upon this knowledge.
If you have seen enough movies you may have been lead to believe it is the stallion that leads the herd. They are protectors, responsible for keeping away intruders and predators. Stallions “own” the herd, but they are not the leaders. It is the "Alpha" Mare that provides leadership and security within the herd. She leads them to food and safety,she disciplines the unruly youngsters; she decides the route of travel when emergency arises. The alpha mare isn’t necessarily the strongest mare. Leadership within the herd isn’t as much about physical strength and domination as it is about good decision making.
When a mare has proven herself as the alpha, her herd becomes dependent upon her for survival. Being disobedient or disrespectful may result in rejection from the herd. Horses instinctively seek
protection from the alpha mare and the safety of the herd. Being alone in the wild means being venerable to predators.
There is another important role in the herd that is referred to by many natural horsemanship trainers as the passive leader. “Horses Never Lie” a book by Mark Rashid gives insight into passive leadership and how to incorporate this attitude into your training. He explains that in observing the horses within a herd you will notice that while they definitely respond and seem to respect the "alpha", they don't spend very much time in that particular horse's company. In fact, the majority of horses in a herd will go out of their way to avoid the "alpha".
While the alpha mare is the leader essential to the survival of the herd she is not the only one with ability to lead. There are small bands within established herds, the second in command is the "passive" or "chosen" leader. This horse doesn't try to gain followers, but goes quietly about its business, avoids fights, conserves energy by observing a social situation before taking action, and is consistent in its behavior. These horses end up being followed by a peaceful band that interacts respectfully, going out of their way to be polite and fair with each other.
Now to the point :) We have established the fact that horses need leadership, and we understand the two prominent leadership positions we can assimilate in working with our horses. So, which one are you? Which one should you be? Horses are individuals with personalities as different from one to the other as the humans beside them.
When I was studying to become a trainer, I was broken down and evaluated just as I learned to do to my horses. I had strengths and weaknesses, personality traits and patterns of habit that could aid or impede my progress. I am by nature a quiet, compassionate trainer. I’m not shy or timid, but I’m not necessarily aggressive or assertive either. In the beginning I didn’t see this as a problem. I was good at working with nervous horses, frightened horses, the ones that just needed a little patience and compassion.
What’s wrong with just being a passive leader? Well, nothing in and of it self is wrong with that. I’m still good with those types of horses. It will always be easier for me to work with horses that respond to what comes naturally to me. However, I learned very quickly that while passive leadership has its place, it is not effective in training aggressive, bullies that are persistent in challenging your leadership. It was only a few weeks before my teachers robbed me of my beloved comfort zone. They took away my sensitive, timid partners, and replaced them with nasty stallion like geldings, and defiant, sometimes violent mares.
They made me cry, they pushed me into walls, they ran me over, bit me, pinned their ears and scoffed at my “gentle nature” I had to learn to lead before I could expect these horses to follow. Not every horse is a gentle giant. I am not suggesting you become an aggressive, dominant brute. I am suggesting you learn to assert yourself and demand to be acknowledged and respected. Only when you have earned respect from your horse will she say, “I’m ready to get along, I’m ready to listen, I’m ready to follow".
One of my instructors used to have me role play as “Helga” the 200 pound German matriarch. I was stoic and firm. I marched along side my bullies, expecting nothing less than obedience as we walked to the arena. If they overstepped the line or invaded my space, I walked them ten steps backward. Teaching the horse and myself, that I was not to be walked on.
Eventually, when you are truly acknowledged as the leader your role can be a more passive one, even with horses that are by nature more aggressive. The key is being consistent in your expectations, rewards and consequence. Do not allow disrespect of any kind when dealing with a bully. DO NOT allow a bully to circle you, DO NOT allow a bully to put his head over yours. DO NOT brush off nippy behavior. If a bully senses weakness in their leader, the leadership will be challenged. Everything you do must remain calm and consistent. Even when correcting the disobedient horse, be swift to act, steadfast and certain. Never act out of anger or frustration.
In order to be effective leaders we must be flexible. Knowing when to assert ourselves and when to be quiet. Some times we have to be firm before we can be gentle. When you are a fair and just leader, your horse will not resent your authority. You can shape your horses behavior, teaching it what to do rather than what not to do. You can apply pressure with your horse trusting release will come when they assume the shape you desire. It is very rewarding to gain a horses respect, especially when it is a respect born out of trust rather than fear. Horses are happy when they know what to expect, they want to know their boundaries and expectations. They want to feel safe and comfortable. The best thing you can do for your horse and for yourself is to become a leader worthy of following.
Very insightful. Once I got a grip on being a 'horse person', I had to deal with an agressive mare who was convinced she was the alpha. I, by nature, am not a passive person. I express myself and have no issue asking my horse to do the same. So bad horses were not a problem. But I was overwhelming to the sensitive horses who were gentle and just needed comfort and encouragement. So now I try to be what the horse needs. Sometimes I am right, sometimes I am not, but at least I try.
Posted by: Learninghorses (Jerri) | January 25, 2007 at 01:07 AM
Thanks for a great post...and perfect timing! I bought my first horse about 2 1/2 mos ago. He was, with his former owner, very lippy...she usually let him mouth on the cross ties or lead rope. I have been having a very hard time with getting him to realize he is not to nip at me or mouth-on me. He doesn't pin his ears when he does it, he does it more for play; however, no amount of *becoming big* and even a sharp whack has helped. He is particularly bad after he has been outside with several other horses...it is like he is still finding his place in the herd when I am with him. Everyone at the barn says, "just get after him"...not sure how much more I can get after him without being reported as an abuser! (j/k) My question is, does it just take a lot longer with some horses than with others? Aside from this nippy stuff, he is a really fun horse and very safe and sane to ride.
Posted by: Maureen | January 25, 2007 at 09:23 AM
Good question Maureen! First I would suggest reading Heed your horses a previous article about ground work and the "feature articles" section of www.meredithmanor.com which discusses in depth the importance of ground exercises in order to establish a respectful relationship between you and your horse. Second a question... Is it just the nippy behavior that is an issue or are there other difficulties in leading him? Just "getting big" wont solve anything. Its like speaking really loud to someone who doesn't speak English. No matter how loud you get your still not getting your point across. The intensity and excitement does nothing without direction. Sometimes when we groom horses try to reach around and nip as a way of reciprocating the gesture. Either way its not o.k. its an invasion of your space. Since there isn't much you can direct him TO DO while he is supposed to be standing on cross ties I would suggest two things... One is to stabilize his lower jaw with a dropped nose band ( before anyone tells you otherwise NO it is not uncomfortable or Mean ) It is used in riding especially when riding in a snaffle so that the horse cant open the mouth big enough to escape bit pressure in order to evade. This eliminates the concern of him reaching around to bite you. Second I would have a dressage whip or crop in your left hand and stand parallel to the shoulder as you groom always holding the whip upright so that your hand is about a quarter of the way down from the top. This is a different way of using a whip. I dont want you to hit him with it or at all. But whey he brings his head over to nip or simply invade your space take the butt of the whip and push him away at the poll ( the top of the neck about in the middle between the mane and jaw. Push it over to center and go right back to grooming no yelling or fuss just direct him to stand straight and ignore his attempts to rile you up. Eventually you should be able to just lift your whip up a bit when you see his head turn and he will return it to center on his own. After practicing that a bit when he stops trying you can just keep the whip near by just in case. I would leave the noseband on until he stops trying. Sometimes it takes just a few days and sometimes i have horses that do it for months. If you have access to a round pen I would suggest working on ground work when you have some free time. He sounds like his issues are really minor so anything you do on the ground will only enhance your relationship and improve his already good riding behavior. I hope that helps!
Posted by: kelly | January 25, 2007 at 10:21 AM
Thanks so much for the helpful tips! I am glad to know I am on the right track as we do groundwork several times a week, especially since the weather has been colder. I will def. try the crop-thing when he is in the crossties. I think part of my problem is that he does tend get me worked up and probably enjoys it. Your advice to correct him without a fuss will be taped to my forehead!
He nips in the crossties and sometimes when I am leading him...mostly if we stop and stand for several moments. It is like he gets bored. I think the girl who owned him before usually gave him something to have in his mouth when he got this way...so he comes by it honestly, I guess. I don't feed him treats by hand or anything so he has never received anything positive for doing it...he is just taking his time in stopping! Thanks again...love your blog!
Posted by: Maureen | January 25, 2007 at 01:43 PM
Thank you for another wonderful article, chock full of tips. I have so much to learn...
Posted by: Donna | January 25, 2007 at 03:53 PM
Love your blog , you write very well. However, this idea of 'alpha horse' whether mare or stallion is not based on any reliable evidence. Horses do have hierachies - but they are rather loose and if you look at any of the ethnologists research you will find as many differences in evidence as there are consistencies. SOME herds have a definite alpha mare - others have extremely loose hierarchies where leaders change based on the circumstances or even where there are triangular relationships (A is higher ranked than B who outranks C who outranks A).
The original research that was performed and has since led to all this 'alpha' horse\dog\wolf terminology was performed on chickens... and later translated (but not re-researched) onto other animal species.
Regardless of all this - even if you believe in 'alpha' theory, it is still debatable whether an animal would truely accept or view a human in the same way as another of its species, albeit that they may transfer some roles to the human.
Posted by: Viv | February 25, 2007 at 07:56 PM
Thanks for the comment, and the link on your site too!!! You make a good point. I believe all of it is up for debate. Its obvious in my experience with domesticated herds that hierarchy is a big part of communicating. Whether or not there is always an alpha I'm not certain. I also think positions change everytime a new horse is introduced and on occasion even in a gelding herd, I have two that are so close in hierarchy that I end up moving one to avoid constant bickering. I would love to hear more about your opinion on this matter as I have always been very interested in the dynamics of the herd. I think what I was trying to convey in my post was not that horses relate to humans as part of thier herd. but that they are capable of seeing you as more of a leader than in position "c" of the triangle you mentioned. I think assessing and understanding the individual personality is the most important aspect of training. You can train a timid horse as if it were a bully and vice versa. At least thats been my experience. Thanks again for the comment, and I look forward to continuing this topic :)
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Posted by: Alprazolam | August 02, 2011 at 01:59 AM
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